Six Ways to Remain Desirable While Pregnant

Reviewed by James Brann, MD
For some women, pregnancy may feel anything but erotic. Morning sickness, fatigue, swollen feet, extra weight gain and water retention are among the many “unflattering” characteristics experienced by some women. Your butt gets bigger, your hips feel stretched, and your breasts may increase to a size that feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable. In the latter stages of pregnancy, it can be difficult to see “down there” and get proper grooming accomplished, such as shaving your legs and bikini zone.
Feeling beautiful and desirable is something every woman strives for, and it should be just as important to stay sexy during pregnancy as any other time. The reasons are many. For one, it is a direct reflection of your self-esteem and confidence. If you feel frumpy, there is a greater tendency to put on more weight by binge eating, not exercising, or just giving up on your looks altogether. Perhaps your mate seems less interested in intercourse, which can be another factor. Pregnant women are not only “in the mood” to continue being intimate in the bedroom with a partner; they may need this kind of reassurance to feel wanted and desired.

Obviously, your self-confidence comes from the inside, but starts from the outside.

There are days as a pregnant woman you might look in the mirror and have sudden, irrational fears. Things like; “I hope my body goes back to normal after this or, “I look so enormous” are normal thoughts.
To help give your self-esteem a boost, it is essential to feel good. When you feel good, you look good. You may notice positive changes with pregnancy, such as great skin and a natural “glow”. The hormonal changes of a pregnant woman do have many positive qualities, such as thicker hair and stronger nails, firm and bigger breasts, and other traits. Embrace these things!

6 Ways to Continue Feeling Desirable While Pregnant

  • 1. Dress in Stylish Maternity Wear: Retire those baggy clothes and start loving your curves. Dress fashionably, even if you are just running errands or going to a doctor’s appointment. Get inspired by looking online or in pregnancy magazines to see what pregnant celebrities are wearing. Choose a few outfits that compliment your body. You’ll be surprised how many compliments you receive and how doing this one thing can increase your confidence. You can still be comfortable and avoid “skimpy” clothing by choosing flattering sundresses, cute sandals (yes you might have to give up the high heels), and stretchy capris with belly-hugging blouses. Being stylish will give you a new “pep” in your step.
  • 2. Continue Exercising: Even if you were not much of a fitness girl before your pregnancy, it is even more important to do now. Do not wait until after you have the baby, as it will probably never happen unless you adopt a program now. It could be as simple as participating along with a pregnancy exercise DVD for 15 minutes a day, or walking, or joining a pregnancy yoga class. The latter is beneficial because you can meet other new “moms-to-be” and share comraderies with other women who are in your shoes. As a bonus, the exercise will also help you manage pregnancy like a champ.
  • 3. Accessorize: If you don’t have a budget to run out and splurge on some new maternity clothes, you can still look glamorous with a few essential jewelry items. Wear a necklace that shows off your new cleavage, some dangly earrings, a sparkly watch or a pretty scarf. It only takes five minutes to adorn your body with some casual, yet elegant costume jewelry. But it will make you feel like a million bucks!
  • 4. Schedule More Date Nights: Some women become so obsessed with their pregnancy that it consumes all of their thoughts. They forget about their spouse. You’ve been together long enough now, why bother dressing up? Well, just as important as it is for you to be sexy for yourself, it is important to your mate. Give him some one-on-one time as often as you can, because after the baby comes, the date nights may become less frequent. Especially when your baby is a newborn, the changes could really affect your relationship. You will feel sexy when you continue staying intimate with your partner. Not just in the bedroom, but by dating and making time for each other. FYI – Going to the doctor together does not count as a “date!”
  • 5. Visit the Hair and Nail Salon: Some pregnant women fall under the misconception that they have to throw their hair back into a ponytail or that hair dye and nail polish will somehow hurt the baby. Guess what, it won’t! That is a myth. There is no evidence of any harm to an unborn child due to a mother getting her fingernails or toenails painted, nor by having a touchup on your roots. So, keep up with your manicures, pedicures and haircuts, ladies. Your sexy self depends on it.
  • 6. Schedule a Pregnancy Photo Session: Find a local photographer and schedule a maternity photo shoot. Not only is this a fun and glamorous way to celebrate your pregnancy, the maternity pictures will be something you cherish for the rest of your life. You can show your little one someday what he or she looked like “in Mommy’s belly” and it will be fun for you to dress up, put on makeup and get dolled up for the session.
Of course, with your pregnancy there will be days when you feel more bloated and not-so-attractive, no matter what you do. That is normal. Keep in mind that those days will be just a blur when you think back to your pregnancy. It is how you act on a day-to-day basis that will be most remembered.


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